Bar Mitzvah: A Soulful Transition

Jan 05, 2014  |  By Arik Barel

146889377The term “Bar Mitzvah”(literally means “son of the mitzvah,” or one who is obligated in mitzvah observance) refers to two things: As soon as a Jewish boy turns 13 years old he automatically becomes a “Bar Mitzvah”, and is recognized by Jewish tradition as having the same moral and ethical responsibilities for his decisions and actions as a full grown man. However, the term “Bar Mitzvah” also refers to the religious ceremony (and party) that generally follows soon afterwards.

Why 13?

The Kabbalah teaches that until age 13 for boys (and 12 for girls), we are primarily conscious of our body and its needs and are preoccupied with the demands and appetites of our physical nature. Around this age in life, another voice begins to be heard – the voice of our soul. We begin to seek meaning, fulfillment, connection, inspiration, the demands and appetites of our spiritual inner self.
Now, together with an expanded consciousness comes free will, the ability to make real choices in a multi-layered world, because we ourselves are now multi-layered. Do we choose to live superficially, according to the dictates of our physical desires, or do we make choices in line with a higher spiritual awareness? According to Judaism, the goal is to choose the latter and the mitzvot are the way to do just that.

What Does it it Entail?

While a special religious service or ceremony is not required for a boy to become a Bar Mitzvah, over the centuries a greater and greater emphasis has been placed on the ceremony as a rite of passage of sorts. While the exact role he plays in the service will vary between the different Jewish movements and synagogues it usually involves some or all of the following elements:

The Aliyah

When the Torah is publicly read in the synagogue (on Shabbat, Monday and Thursday mornings, holidays and fast days), congregants are called up for an aliyah: the honor of reciting one of the blessings over the Torah. Aliyah means “ascent,” referring both to the physical ascent onto the platform where the Torah is read and to the spiritual elevation experienced at that time. Traditionally, a boy is honored with an aliyah on the first “Torah-reading-day” that follows his thirteenth birthday. Some wait for the first Shabbat that follows the Bar Mitzvah.

Reading the Torah or Haftarah Portion

In some communities it is customary for the Bar Mitzvah boy to chant the Torah reading, or at least one section of it. Others have the custom of honoring the Bar Mitzvah boy with the final aliyah, known as “Maftir,” after which he chants the haftarah–the reading from the prophets which follows the Shabbat Torah reading. However many are of the opinion that this custom has no source, and is therefore not a requirement for the Bar Mitzvah ceremony, rather he should spend time studying the fundamentals of Judaism.

The Mitzvah of Tefillin

Tefillin are black leather boxes containing parchments inscribed with the Shema and other Biblical passages. The Torah commands adult Jewish men to bind the tefillin onto the head and upper arm with leather straps in fulfillment of the verse, “You shall bind them as a sign upon your hand, and they should be for a reminder between your eyes” (Deuteronomy 6:8).
Although young boys are trained to keep all the mitzvahs even before their Bar Mitzvah, tefillin are the exception. A boy does not put on tefillin until he approaches the age of thirteen. For this reason, more than any other practice, tefillin have always served as a symbol of the transition from Jewish childhood to adulthood.

The Party

Today, while many Bar Mitzvah celebrations take place directly after the synagogue ceremony and include a festive meal followed by music (if it is not Shabbat) and dancing, for others it’s a lavish party with the same sorts of celebratory elements as those that accompany other major life-cycle events, like a wedding. Interestingly, according to some, the first documented Bar Mitzvah celebration is even referred to in the Torah: “And the child [Isaac] grew and was weaned, and Abraham made a great feast on the day that Isaac was weaned” (Genesis 21:8). According to one opinion expressed in the Midrash, this was the day that Isaac turned thirteen; the day when he was “weaned” from his childish nature, and assumed the responsibilities of a Jewish adult. In Jewish literature, this verse is often used as a source for the celebration made in honor of a boy’s acceptance of the mitzvot at age thirteen.

Bar Mitzvah Gifts

Gifts are commonly given to a Bar Mitzvah, usually after the ceremony, at the party or meal. While any present appropriate for a 13-year old can be given, traditional gifts for the Bar Mitzvah boy include Jewish books, various Judaica items, gift certificates, or money.

Category  : Holiday Gifts, Jewelry, Judaica   

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